In light of National Coming Out Week, I've received two questions from readers that are particularly fitting.
Can anal sex give me hemorrhoids? - Corn Pone Malone
So, Corn Pone Malone, I'm assuming you're trying to tell me you've been living under a rock and just need this pressing question answered.
In most situations, if you are doing it right, anal sex cannot give you hemorrhoids. There is a difference though between internal and external hemorrhoids. Hemorrhoids are swollen varicose veins located inside the anus or around the exterior of the anus. Certain conditions can cause internal hemorrhoids and one is anal intercourse, according to WebMD. However, if you are having anal sex the correct way, it shouldn't cause hemorrhoids. So in proper practice, no, anal sex does not give you hemorrhoids.
I'm going to give you a quick "how to have anal sex" guide. But first I'd like to smash all phobias about anal sex. There are a ton of nerve endings surrounding the anus. Also, a man's prostate gland can be reached through the rectum and a woman's g-spot can be stimulated during anal intercourse. Yeah, I'm aware of what comes out of your rump but once you scrub yourself clean there is really no reason you can't enjoy some pleasure.
Getting into the groove of things could be a little uncomfortable, thus causing you to clench up a bit. The key here is to relax. Massage and run your finger around the area. Use your tongue or your finger (with lube applied) and practice the movement to keep everything loosened up.
As I've talked about before, you really need to be experimenting with a significant other with whom you are comfortable. If it starts to hurt, just stop. Nothing should be rushed and open communication is necessary.
Next, use a ton of lube and condoms. You do not have enough natural lubrication going on to keep things sliding properly. Honestly, if you think you've added enough lube, just add a little more.
I've consulted Babeland, a sex toy store located in New York City, about this topic area and they suggest the mantra, "Relaxation. Lubrication. Communication." So Corn Pone Malone, just keep chanting.
I had another question this week along the same lines that asked about dental dams and whether protection is necessary.
Protection is absolutely necessary because you don't know if there will be accidental tearing or other bodily fluids that can easily be exchanged when dealing with any intercourse.
Dental dams are used for oral-vaginal or oral-anal sex. They block bodily fluids, which in return protects you from many STIs. When you have oral sex, hold the dam against the vulva or anus. Don't think that using a dam will cause less sensation.
Also, when you use a dental dam, be sure to only use it once. Please do not flip the dam inside out and use it again because then you're just exposing yourself to all of the fluids you were trying to avoid.
Last week I asked you all, do you have sex in the dorm showers? Shockingly, the polls have revealed that Letts Hall has the most sex in the shower. Here are two responses from readers:
"Letts Hall, second floor." - Ben There (Done That)
"I haven't had sex in the showers, but I know of at least two people who have. Also, you know that bathtub in the Letts Terrace ladies room? Oh yeah ..." - All Steamed Up
Keep splurging to Mia.Libido@gmail.com or dropping questions in the box outside of the Eagle office, MGC 252. Here's another question for next week: What's the weirdest place on campus that you've had sex? Send me your responses!
