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Dear Pierce,
This is kind of awkward, but I like to masturbate - a lot. I'm a guy, and sometimes it gets kind of... sore. How many times a day is normal? Sincerely, Just Achieving Cockle Kookiness Innumerably Nightly Dear JACKIN', Your question is not awkward, and certainly not unusual. Guys our age love to yank our crank, and sometimes, there's no good reason to stop. Either there's no significant other, or that person is in class for 80 minutes and you can't bear to go unsatisfied. Most people love masturbation, no matter the reason. When the situation is perfect (a roommate is gone for the weekend, you're home sick, you're trying to get the best use out of a two-week porn Web site trial, whatever), guys have been known to masturbate over and over again in the same day. Girls do, too, but a guy is asking here. For many dudes, if the penis is willing to rise again, it's fair game. But you, JACKIN', know all this. Making your penis sore from masturbation, while immediately painful, is nothing to be worried about. Still, if your member has chafed or is red and hurts when you touch or move it, stop masturbating. Usually things will be back to normal within a day or two if you leave your dick alone. If it still hurts after a couple of days, have someone medically certified take a look at it. Making yourself sore is fine and healthy to do, once in a while. Everything in moderation, my friend. If you're wringing out your cock every night, you may end up not being able to orgasm inside a vagina or anus because you're so used to your ferocious hand. To answer your other question, there is no normal amount because obviously, everyone's different. If it hurts, try cutting back a little or maybe spacing out your jam sessions. To answer it another way, every guy has his record. Dear Pierce, How many sex partners do most guys consider too many? Most cordially, Beneath Absolutes and Banal Examples of Stereotypes Listen BABES, if you're a healthy, pro-active, positive, young woman, you've got nothing to worry about. I assume you don't mean at the same time, but, rather, previous sexual partners. Women often want to know what's normal in this respect, either to gauge themselves or what to say to guys who ask. I'd say to anyone, man or woman, regardless of sexual orientation, that it really has nothing to do with a finite number and more to do with how you act and how careful you are concerning STIs (They're now called sexually transmitted infections; goodbye STDs.) Too often, the standard for numbers of previous partners a woman can legitimately have will be lower than the standard for men. Is it true that girls who sleep around are sluts, but guys who bone all the chicks are players? Of course not. There's nothing wrong with promiscuity when it's safe and no one gets hurt. And one way to keep it safe is by assessing the risk of casual sexual encounters. It's awkward, but "how many guys have you been with?" is the way that some guys determine the risk level of a partner in the heat of the moment. So, what to say? BABES, when things are getting hot and heavy, and a guy asks you how many partners you've had, feel free to answer him honestly - and expect an honest answer in return. It's also a good idea to know beforehand if your partner has any STIs. However, it's certainly your right to say, "It's none of your goddamn business." Just don't expect any more than the same from him. So, if you want to ask a question for next week - and I'll make up the acronym for you if you want - e-mail me at piercehardcastle@theeagleonline.com. I'm also on Facebook if you want to send me questions that way. |
Pierce's last column raised some sticky issues. Some conscientious readers offer advice on female-friendly lubes:
"When partners choose a lube, you are right - they should choose one that works for the sex act they are performing. We like to include a caution to women: when the lube is going into the vagina, always use water-based lube because oil-based lubes and flavored lubes can give you a nasty yeast infection! Egg whites, while an OK lube for machines, have the potential for infection as well. We would also like to note that some women (and men) have ridiculously bad reactions to 'warming' lubes and condoms with that type of lube ... so test it somewhere a little more comfortable before using it in the genital area.
On that note, thanks again for making the sex column informative as well as fun.
Vanessa C. Mueller Director of Women's Initiative Joanna Smith Former director of Women's Initiative |
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